Happiness and your dating structure.

People view happiness differently. Some see it as having what they want, some see it as achieving personal goals, some see it as watching others appreciate their lives...so on and so forth.

Are you happy? Are you really happy?

If you even need any time to think about it..you are not happy. Face it. How congruent are we..how sure are we..to say we are totally happy? Don't tell me..don't ask me...ask yourself. Just like how i asked myself.

Happiness is not about what you have, or how much you have. Rather, it is about how much you give. And this road of giving is not for the faint hearted. This road of giving, will show you the way to human open-ness. But you will have to go through alot of pain, alot of wiring on your already socially programmed mindset..to give selflessly. It will show you the way to unconditional love. Love that requires no expectations of returns. Well, if there are any..those are simply bonuses and by-products of your human aawesome-ness. Until you are able to do that...you will always be finding that one special secret recipe. Deep down in you, in the middle of the night, just before sleeping, you will reflect...you will talk to yourself...you will ask....how do i find it?

In any case, whenever you expect a reward of your giving...you will feel terrible. Anytime you place any importance on rewards..any importance to feed your ego..you will feel terrible. As much as i thought this whole thing was about learning how to speak with women, and attract them on a primal level...i quickly knew that there was more. More than meets the eye.

You want to know how to attract a woman you fancy?

Improve

Improve yourself as a whole. Not only on superficial levels such as conversational skills, humor, or whatsoever that you will learn in bootcamp. Rather....it is really about building a solid set of moral values, character, beliefs, etc. To summarise, be someone of standard. Be a really good person. Be a person who gives value. Be a person who sings praises of people who deserve it. Let it go.

A car with engine and petrol will move, but if it is an old and faulty engine...some crappy petrol...the car ain't gonna go far.Your value as a man is your capacity as a man.

With extra resources on building confidence, learning to be creatively humorous, ability to continue and escalate conversations, the road to finding your purpose and building your structure as a man will be much more easier.

Afterall, these are just my opinions and my thoughts on this subject.

But really think about it.

Your ability to be a value giver..is really a beautiful attribute. It is a gorgeous thing to have.

Realistically speaking..what is so good about being able to meet women..and being really good at it? The physical pleasure? Or the beautiful energy when both humans connect on an emotional level?

If this is your warped reality...

You go out one night, you meet a beautiful woman..you spent time with her...you bring her home...and you made sweet physical love...and then she leaves..the next night..you meet another beautiful girl...and the cycle goes on..and it happens for years..and then you die. Lets say...you die 3 years down the road...and you have spent your last 3 years doing what you were doing...successfully...constantly dating gorgeous women...and now you're on your deathbed...you look back...apart from having those pretty girls ..of who many probably don't even remember you.....are you happy? Is this the life you want? Have you really allowed your core as a man to shine? To face your fears of pain? To be a giver rather than a taker?

Hey, this obviously is not the life i wanna lead though. I know i will not be happy. This kind of life is not fulfilled to me at all. When i'm on my deathbed, i want to know..that i had lived a full life. A life that i know i gave my best. I know i gave my everything, i gave what i want and i experienced what served as beautiful lessons...to discover myself on a deeper level. I want to know that i made an impact on the lives of the people who came into my life.

To die knowing that i have given my true gift..or knowing that i have done my every best in my everyday life...like what an anonymous self help guru said...is very empowering.

When i started my journey learning how to be good with women..i was working on quantity. Never did i expect it was a pretty warped reality. But it brought me to where i am now. It provided me with a direction for self improvement. I now focus on quality. Women of depth.

Opening someone up and leaving them with no concrete reason is a very cruel act. Why would anybody wana do that? It really is not about how many women you hook up with...it is really not about the quantity...but rather..the quality.

Your values and motive that you have is directly proportionate to the kind of woman you attract.

If you ain't have the right motive..you ain't have the right woman.

If you are of no quality yourself...you ain't gonna attract a quality woman.

Women can smell you from afar. The moment you speak...they know where you are coming from. They know if you are a man who knows his purpose in life, or just another shallow man who simply wants some physical love.

A smile attracts a smile

A punch receives a punch

You want to attract a good woman....?

BE A GOOD MAN YOURSELF FIRST

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