The Basics of Attraction (Free workshop)

What up guys, I wanna let you all know that we people over at datingskillset.com will be holding a free workshop. Here the details for it and YES it completely free. You don't need to pay a single cent for it.

The Basics of Attraction (Free Workshop)

Learn what it takes to be an attractive guy that consistently attract girls and get dates in Singapore

The basics of attraction workshop is to equip YOU with the basic essentials of being an attractive guy that consistently attract girls and get more dates in your dating life. If you want to be more successful in the field of dating in Singapore, this workshop is definitely a must attend for you.

In this FREE workshop, you’ll learn:

· The four main traits that 90% of guys in Singapore do that lead them to no success with women.

· The  secrets towards being an attractive guy and we’ll also show you why looks and money don’t play a part in being successful with women.

· Conversation starters: Learn rejection proof on how to start conversation with a women in any situation. Example, MRT, Bus Stop, coffee shop, shopping malls, Orchard Road, clubs & bars and many more places.  You’ll never have to worry again of NOT knowing what to say.

· Tonality, specific tactics to speaking louder and how to speak more sexually.

· Singapore proven to work techniques to getting a women phone number.

· Body language, a basic guide to getting all your body language down for good. No longer having to look needy and low in confidence.

· Powerful ways to use humor playful and teasing in your interactions with all women.

· Meeting women should be FUN! Ways to keep you engage and focused on your long termed dating goals without having to viewed this like a work. Not to forget being able to get the results you wanted too.

Above are just one of the many things you’ll will be taught in this 3 hour workshop. Timing and venue for the workshop will be reveal to you once you sign up for it.  Simply send us an email with your name and phone number and you will be given a slot to the workshop. Sign up right now for our free workshop to avoid any disappointment as seat are very limited. The Basics Of Attraction will commence on the 7 of April 2012.

If you any enquires regarding the workshop feel free to end us a email at Gate@modernman.sg

Your friend,
Gate.

The Power Of Attraction.

Have you ever felt exhausted, burnt out from all these attraction stuff that you've read, learn, or even consciously act out?

You are not alone.It isn't new anymore. Every successfully transformed Singapore alpha male will tell you the same old theory.

Sometimes less is more.

Moving on is something, but understanding why you should and why it is the ultimate truth is another. If it isn't already clear to you, the reason people pick up new skills is directly proportionate to their motive which drives their purpose. Individual purpose takes time to discover. Nobody can tell you what you should be responsible in your life. It is the universal truth that we all have to tread this journey ourselves. Often times, it is the question that makes the cut, not the answer.

And the human ego is sly as it is, often times slipping in from the back of the mind without you consciously knowing. " The world is your mirror " - a common quote you hear all the time. Your comments and criticisms are simply a reflection of your perception of yourself.

That of which you resent, you lack.

The ultimate truth is often misunderstood, or even misrepresented.In this time and age when freedom of speech is widely practiced, we begin to doubt our own values, and beliefs. Oftentimes, unconsciously taking on values from an external source, in which the values came from another external source. It is a never ending cycle that serves to only make the unconscious more unconscious, and the conscious more conscious.

Well, just like how the rich gets richer and the poor gets poorer.

When will it stop?

The invisible force is constantly working its magic, all with the majority of our human population
being unaware. What invisible force you may ask? Go read "The secret", and you shall have a better understanding of what i'm saying. It's weird whenever you talk to someone about this "invisible force", and they give you that weirded out stare, given the fact that the "weirdo" is well aware of the presence of other invisible forces like x-rays and gamma rays. I don't know. It seems like the human ego is trying to resist allowing the truth to set in.

Running away serves as a temporary relieve of pain.

Matter of fact, most of us are constantly living our lives through force, instead of power.

Just like how you would conduct a textbook style pickup. If you come down to the bare minimum, you are simply acting through force. Pushing your values and wants onto another person. Yes, you may have some initial successes, but it is just temporary. Understand that a force will return an opposing force. A force moves something from here to there, and it's limited by definition. A force requires constant stimuli. And yes, you may not be able to handle the returning force..you never know. And yes, it is obviously coming from a point of artificial stimuli.

On the other hand, you would do so much better if you are coming from a point of power. By definition, power is still, stable and it requires no external stimuli. An example, gravity. Power affects the things around it, it generates energy in itself.

Why wouldn't we want to look at attraction in this perspective instead?

Wouldn it be much more beneficial to the degenerating human condition?

True and unbelievable at first, there really is a rotating vortice in every one of us. We are all human generators. And how do we kick start this generator? We need to learn how to be compassionate. We need to learn how to not judge, how to act from power and purpose, instead of lack and fear.

One can then truly grasps the meaning of "unreactiveness" when one is being exposed to this ultimate truth. As i always like to reiterate, we come to this world with nothing, and we shall leave with nothing. It simply is a myriad of experiences that we truly have, throughout our time on earth. And knowing this ultimate yet simply truth, shouldn't we all do all we can to enhance our life experiences? It is true that what is good for you will be good for me. Disregarding context. Eg: Vitamin C is good for you, and it will be for me. Laughter is good for you, and it will be for me. For all good that you return to the society, it affects the others, and in turn affects the others again.

When equipped with the true essence of power, one can feel unwavered. Needless to say passing congruence tests. And by basing all interactions into a feedback loop which ends up in you asking yourself if it is beneficial to your emotional wellbeing, and aligning it to your true purpose and priority in your life..you get to see the "bigger picture".

Girl : hey, that shirt looks weird on you!
You : Thanks, that's one of the worse compliments i've gotten. you are so cute, you dun really
give compliments eh? Let me buy you some chocolates! (You disregard her comments, cos you know it isn't congruent. And she is coming from a point of "force", to get to you return an opposing force (react). and you don't, instead you became real weirdly friendly..and it doesnt make sense. (you arent always able to handle the opposing force which comes your way).

The point isn't about the
exact words you use, but the idea and motive behind those words.

Think about it,

With love,
Gate

Why most Singaporean men do not smile.

This post is gonna be a really short one. But it identifies the main screw up
most Singapore guys have, and will always have if they have no friggin consciousness to
know what they are doing wrong.

SMILE

Too many technical analysis in your head, and you find yourself not smiling. And even if you're smiling, it looks fake and weak.

Given the many crazy adventures we have had during our night out with clients, this has been proven many a time to be TRUE.

The successful ones smile a lot. I mean hey, let's get down to the basic fundamentals man. No amount of theoretical knowledge is gonna help you if you ain't know how to smile nicely.

Just how potent can a smile be, with regards to adding any value to the whole interaction with women?

You lead, they follow. It's an unconscious thing man. Picture yourself talking to
someone with screwed up energy level, restless and shits. Man, i'm sure you'll
feel screwed up as well. Like, "yucks...wtf is this? I need to get away ..fast!"
It's the same for smiling man. You smile, you're happy, and soon enough she'll
be smiling too. I can't guarantee that she's gonna respond immediately...that
really depends on whether you're as cute as me. ROFL. I'm attached. So ..yea. =)

It really depends on your delivery and bodylanguage though. Lead the
emotions, and she will feel it, and in turn follow.

And of course, you smile with limits. You don't start smiling like a weirdo. A casual non threatening, chill, have fun kinda smile. And in the event that you do meet any uptight women who probably might threaten to rip your manly balls of you when you smile at them, walk away. It happens. Give them the benefit of the doubt. They probably ahd a bad bad day. Smile at other people who looks less threatening. Strike up a conversation. "Hey, i saw you and i thought you look friendly. My name is.." You get the drift. Have some value in who you approach and talk to. And in turn, you'll realise you're building a very respectful bunch of friends.

SMILE SMILE SMILE.

Experiment with it.

Truth is, many people don't smile.

Anxiety and a new perspective towards taking care of it.

Many of us prolly might have experienced anxiety before. What kinda anxiety? You know. That tingling-heart pumping-breathless feeling you get when you fancy a cute girl, and found it so darn hard to just go up and say hi. It is normal. If anyone would tell me straight in my face : "Oh i never have anxiety", i prolly wouldn't take him seriously. I had, and still have. Yes, i'm pretty darn honest. And im fine with it. What's different is prolly the different ways we tackle this issue. Some experienced it, and crawled back to their shells and start comforting themselves....some, the better ones..tend to recognise it, and just go through the motions. Walk up. "Hi, how are you?" Some guys even have anxiety while talking to a fellow male. Before you even call him a chump and start laughing hysterically at him...think. What rights do you have to make this judgement about him? You have no rights. It is normal. Throughout these years, i have experienced several incredible growth spurts. I wouldn't say all of them are good or bad..but i prolly wouldn't change anyone of them if i were given a chance. And i proly wouldn't consider myself any different from many guys out there. In terms of individual thinking, yes. But that is just it. Sometimes, i am impressed by my past clients for example Ryan. I learnt alot from just watching him transformed. Lesson i got out of this?

PEOPLE ARE ALWAYS IN THEIR OWN HEADS.

People allow themselves limitations. And you can never be too sure of anything. Because things change..as experience comes in. Be sure of yourself now, in this present moment. Because this is the time you have complete control. This article i am churning out now isn't a complete "cure". No..it is simply just a new perspective ...a signpost...to lead us to our individual purpose in life. What guy A gets out of this material is different from what guy B does. The first time i saw him, he was quiet and reserved. What people might call an "afc". But not in the eyes of mine. He had reservations about his life situations. Progress is tough. But guess what..i look at him now, he is a complete changed man. Maybe not all that sanely...but at least he had made very impressive progress. Go to him for humour lessons. I can vouch for that. =) So much for stories..lol..lets go on to the meat of this article.I do not know how you view anxiety..and i am not going to put a price on it. However, this is how i currently see it..as it is.....

Anxiety isn't a bad thing afterall. Some people say to view it as adrenaline..and "just know it is a good feeling" ..then you are able to remove negative thoughts and just do it. Well, good idea..but doesn't work for me. Have to find out what works for YOU. Not everybody. I view anxiety as spark pugs for growth. Take this analogy...anxiety is like bodybuilding. Each and everytime you lift weights, you are in actual fact breaking down your muscles, and matter of fact, they are going through a stage of atrophy. They are getting smaller. But guess what? It starts growing almost compoundingly..as you start eating right, sleeping enough...and training more...and the cycle goes on. It gets bigger and bigger. So anxiety can be viewed similarly. With anxiety..it is giving you a "push" to go do an approach..and who cares if you crash and burn? Who cares if you got rejected. It doesn't matter. What is in fact happening is this. Each and everytime you get your reality shattered, you grow. YES.EACH AND EVERYTIME YOU GET YOUR REALITY SHATTERED, YOU GROW.

I hope this article provides some kinda value to you guys out there.

Baiting.

What exactly is baiting? Baiting is, to me, throwing in a very subtle sort of communication 'lure' so that the girl will eventually eat it up and respond. I take it one step further, and plant in the curiosity before moving it away so it doesn't seem as obvious.

A few examples.

I like girls who like kissing. Damn what's that song?
I love it when something meant to be eaten can taste so sensual. Nice ring btw.
Its amazing how we can go to a club and talk to complete strangers. Oh my god would you date someone like that? *points*

The usefulness of this conversational strategy cannot be overstated. It can be applied in so many ways, and more often than not even if the girl doesn't bite the bait it will still leave a certain imprint in her mind. That can only be a good thing.

You can use this to say anything, express anything, let her know whatever you want her to know.

What If?

What if she reject me?
What if she doesn't respond?
What if she say fuck off?
What if she slap me?
What if her friends drag her away?
What if she have a boyfriend?
What if she's lesbian?

Sounds familiar? Yes, the above thoughts, not exhaustive by any means, is what is usually going through guys when they are approaching women in Singapore. The fear of the approach and is known as approach anxiety.

Approach Anxiety.

Did the above 2 words just freak you out? If it did, don't worry, it normal.

Everyone get approach anxiety. EVERY LIVING BREATHING HUMAN. GIRLS INCLUDED

See, even guys who are successful with women get approach anxiety.

Whats the difference between the guy who is successful and the guys who not?

A guy who not successful with women let approach anxiety overcome him and stay in his little corner in a club, do nothing all night, and feel like shit.

A ladies men can think to himself "Fuck this shit, I'm going in". and get rejected, and subsequently get the number of the next 5 approaches he open.

Think about it.

Approach without thinking and the Alpha Male.

One of the things why guys in Singapore fail to be successful with women is they think too much sometime. They plan, go out, approach women, sit down, breakdown the approach they did, then? Well, sad to say, I am guilty of that too. I've been through that phrase and at time it still happen, but I've since hone the ability to detect any signs of this bad habit popping up and have learn and still is learning how to control it. It is scary how the human mind can screw you up so badly, even before any action is taken. "Oh , she's gonna be a bitch, and shoot me down, and I'm gonna feel so terrible and embarrassed, and then people around me will notice and start gossiping, I can't do this...no!" I've been there in fact countless of time...so I can feel you. The fact is...you will meet people like that...and the solution is, not to take it personally. She might had a pretty bad day at work...or might just be another low self esteem girl.

Be social! This is NOT the 'evil art of seduction', you are going out in the field to have fun, be yourself, hang out and add value to the people around you. Whether you bang a girl or get a number is secondary. If it happen, it happen but it WILL NOT affect your state of being. You still gonna enjoy yourself even if you don't get laid. But if you are going out purely to get numbers or get laid, Women will detect that attitude from a mile away and it's an instant turn off.

I hate to hang out with guys who can't stop it. "Hey, there's 3 girls..open! Sarge!" "Why didn't you approach?" "What time are we going to start sarging, and until what time?" DUDE, WAKE UP. Just freaking hang out and have fun. When you reiterate stuff like that, you are killing yourself. Approach anxiety starts flowing like water. You now have the skills...use it to interact with people. If you've done it smoothly...the number will come. Process over outcome. You will never get blown out. You are just a friendly guy, talking to people and if uptight people shut you off...they are socially retarded. Why give meaning to blow outs like that?

When learning this skill set, many will try to be what they call the alpha. But guess what? Many do not know what a true alpha really is. True alpha males are rare. True alpha males are perhaps those 5 percent of male in the club with girls around them all the time. Alpha males give without expecting anything in return, they are just plain 'cool', they don't go around buying girls drinks or beg for their phone number. Alpha males create comfortable vibes, they create a warm happy playpen for the women to wander around in. Alpha male don't supplicate, but they treat women as equals and get the same in return. Women will compete for those men, women will work for these men. They are emotionally wired to do so. They will even leave their boyfriend just to hang out with them. They will dump him or hide him or do whatever it takes to align with the alpha male. Aren't they horrible evil sluts for doing so? The answer is NO. Look...they don't have a choice, women are programmed to align with alpha males just like men are programmed to sleep with women. Women love the true alpha males and want to be 'Pick Up'. If you pull this off right, then literally every women you approach will love your presence and your energy. They feel honored to be hanging out with you. The direction of your interaction is up to you and her. It will take some time for you to cease being surprised when you find women want far different things than what you formerly thought they wanted. Remember, that most women are with beta men because that is all they can get. If you are an alpha male who won't deceive her about your intentions then you are doing her a huge favor by introducing yourself into her life. All of the women I date know that I see other women and they don't mind because they would still rather be with me than pretending to be happy with some beta boyfriend.

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With love,
Gate