Learning how to date girls in Singapore?

Learning how to date girls in Singapore?

I've always been open to various viewpoints on subjects, and i've always been pretty philosophical about stuffs. It's fun and it challenges and stretches our mind-rubberband. And out of curiosity, i went to wiki philosophy.

Damn, am i appalled at the branches of it. Aesthetics, logic, epistemology, metaphysics...etc. I shook my head, but i continued reading and discovering. It was scary. Scary to know that there are so so so so much more out there. And we can never stop discovering.

And i started to question. I started to question this "buzzing thought" i've always seems to have in my head.


*I don't wana know. I don't wana listen anymore. I know what i know. That is enough. Stop giving me anymore excess information. I am so tired*


Somehow, at every junction of learning something new, it never fails to pop out and wish me a good day. I question the reason. I question the reason why it seems to go away after i bust through all the brick walls and master a certain new skill.

As if saying : Oh now i ain't have any control over holding you back now..bye bye! And poof! Off it goes...

Ironic huh? Weird huh? But it happened. It happened and is still happening to me. Humans are effing lazy by nature. ROFL. That's just my personal take on it. =p

And so...it prolly might be directly proportionate to being complacent. Highly i would say. Imagine how incongruent it would feel to step out of your house and build a tent out there and sleep in it for a few days. You'll prolly feel eeky on the 2nd day onwards. You aint used to that condition yet. Not yet. Bear with it for a few more days.. and your tolerance level may well move up a notch...and it starts to feel better..it starts to feel pretty much normal and relaxing...you're starting to adapt.

And so...below is an abstract from wiki.. take note of the ones i highlighted in red.


Learning
From Wikipedia, the free encyclopedia

Learning is one of the most important mental function of humans, animals and artificial cognitive systems. It relies on the acquisition of different types of knowledge supported by perceived information. It leads to the development of new capacities, skills, values, understanding, and preferences. Its goal is the increasing of individual and group experience Learning functions can be performed by different brain learning processes, which depend on the mental capacities of learning subject, the type of knowledge which has to be acquitted, as well as on socio-cognitive and environmental circumstances.
Learning ranges from simple forms of learning such as habituation and classical conditioning seen in many animal species, to more complex activities such as play, seen only in relatively intelligent animals and humans. Therefore, in general, a learning can be conscious and not conscious.

For example, for small children, not conscious learning processes are as natural as breathing. In fact, there is evidence for behavioral learning prenatally, in which habituation has been observed as early as 32 weeks into gestation, indicating that the central nervous system is sufficiently developed and primed for learning and memory to occur very early on in development.
From the social perspective, learning is the goal of teaching and education.
Conscious learning is a capacity requested by students, therefore is usually goal-oriented and requires a motivation.

Learning has also been mathematically modeled using a differential equation related to an arbitrarily defined knowledge indicator with respect to time, and dependent on a number of interacting factors (constants and variables) such as initial knowledge, motivation, intelligence, knowledge anchorage or resistance, etc.[5][6] Thus, learning does not occur if there is no change in the amount of knowledge even for a long time, and learning is negative if the amount of knowledge is decreasing in time. Inspection of the solution to the differential equation also shows the sigmoid and logarithmic decay learning curves, as well as the knowledge carrying capacity for a given learner.


Physiology of learning

"Thought," in a general sense, is commonly conceived as something arising from the stimulation of neurons in the brain. Current understanding of neurons and the central nervous system implies that the process of learning corresponds to changes in the relationship between certain neurons in the brain.
It is generally recognized that memory is more easily retained when multiple parts of the brain are stimulated, such as through combinations of hearing, seeing, smelling, motor skills, touch sense, and logical thinking.
Repeating thoughts and actions is an essential part of learning. Thinking about a specific memory will make it easy to recall. This is the reason why reviews are such an integral part of education. On first performing a task, it is difficult as according to current theory synaptic modification is necessary for the task to be acquired. After several repetitions it is believed that structural changes occur in relevant synapses, thus rendering the task easier. When the task becomes so easy that you can perform it at any time, these structural changes have likely ceased.


Yep, and so it proves one thing, It may be that the unconscious is afraid of leaving the comfort zone and entering a new area where the previous skills it has since acquired will not be the essential moving piece in the new situation. It will highly be neglected. You ain't gona talk about your knowledge of stocks and shares on a date.. and just by omitting the already acquired knowledge..it prolly threatens the ego to let go. To release the tension is has been holding on to..and jump into a new environment to pick up something new and unlearnt.

And it pretty much proved my experiences. There can never be a ceasation of human learning process. When it ceases...you fall onto the negative side of the graph. Pretty scary.

Learning is an everyday thing. For anybody who thinks they hit a plateau in self improvement...back to basics.. You probably in some point of your life resisted new information. You resisted change. You resisted the learning curve. Thus, you prolly plunge way back down. The deeper down you go, the more effort it's gonna take you to climb.

Past students reading this....there isn't any magic pill anymore....the only magic pill is to climb. Stretch your mind-rubber...and keep stretching....for that's what life is about. If you aint stretching...be damn sure you are already dead. Every effort to stretch requires energy and motivation.....and every energy and motivation present represents every second of life. If you are still alive and kicking....ain't no excuse for you not to learn new skills.

Till then, love.

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Love,
Gate. 

Your environment reflects YOU and your success with women.

Busy busy busy. I hate the early morning squeezing, and late evening pushing. I think singapore is getting too over populated. ROFL. People start standing across the "Yellow Line", when the train is passing by at lightning speed. Crazy muthafukas.

Anyway, if you think i'm gona chant and rant on any recent girl experiences...you might wana look elsewhere. lol.

I'm heavily burnt out right now, but i'm pushing myself to blog. Reason being..?

*READ THE TITLE*

For every effort you employ to push yourself to greater heights and to breaking your limits, you grow. Simple yet true.

I'm in fact pushing my mental capacity right now...just like my every morning to work. While people are busy catching their precious "i finally got a seat in the train and now im going to sleep" BEAUTY SLEEP...i'm reading a 500 page book.

I get weird stares and funny looks, i don't know why.

Look, you can easily stand out from the crowd and know you are unique when you see a majority of the population behaving the same way every morning.

"Droopy eyes..walking zombie with no effing sparkle of energy"

Some people say that you can create your environment. You can decide what kind of life you want to lead. True enough. However, please do not mistake this for "The environment mean no shit to me".

It took me sometime to fully understand this concept. and at some point in my life, when i least expects...it went "click". Somehow it seems like we humans are meant to be simple. We humans are meant to adapt. We humans are meant to merge. We humans are meant to be in our comfort zone.

Your environment and you correlate. They both work hand in hand. There is no "one stronger force". There essentially should be balance.

You are the mirror of your environment.

Through personal experience, i realised that it is close to impossible to change this fact. Well, my opinions here..so..yeah. You can control though. The fact that we become complacent. That we adapt, almost too quickly.

Say you have superb social skills, superb social abilities around women. You party all day, you enjoy life to its fullest.

Take a month or two, get into the bandwagon, and join the rat race.

And tell me..how much more of a ladies man are you? How much more of a social butterfly can you then be? Social conditiong is taking place. Social routines are making you a robot.

You can never be "something" forever. If you even see yourself as a POOAA..then good for you. Cos you know what? You can never be one forever. Cos there isn't forever. There is no constant.
The only constant is change. And if you cant accpet this fact..then you will lose out. Lose out big time. Everything is changing. The environment changes. New buildings are built. New gadgets are invented. What can you do? You can only change.

And in fact. this is exactly how your environment will affect you and how you live your life to a certain extent. However, you are able to tap on this issue and maximise the positivity that you want in your life. And that is your choice. And when you make that choice, be it for the good of mankind ..or you...it will affect the environment. And thus...change will take place again.

This whole process can be known as....EVOLUTION.

And if you choose to party all day and night, boozing here and there..enjoying life... then that probably might be what you will do in a small part of your life. And if you inject any more life into it, it might become a large part of your life..and in turn..might be the only thing that you have in your life. And you have literally transform yourself from a "not bad" person to a loser who only plays and plays...and ends up having problems paying the bills.

And if you choose to be a guy who only revolves his life purpose in meeting and dating many girls..then you probably can see yourself ten years down the road......whatever you deem fit.

There is much more to life than constantly dating girls. True enough, love is great. However, take some time to just hang out with friends..just chill and have fun. You don't always need to turn things sexual whenever a lady is around.

So, start thinking about what you want in your life..and go find it!

cheers!

Simple is what get the girls.

Met some awesome guys last night, really cool and sincere people. Shared some ideas on dating throughout the night, and voila.!!. Laughter and smiles all over the place. It's as if people around us were non-existent.

Had a simple but mind blowing epiphany today.


Simply put, it's this simple and stupid system in which people learn new stuff. Especially in the dating industry...which makes them so darn robotic, and fake..yea.


Oblivious ---> Exposed to new technique ---> Test out new technique ---> Trial and error ---> sift out what works and what doesn't ---> Explore new technique ---> Test out technique --->Trial and error ---> sift our what works and what doesn't

Awesome flow chart right? I mean trial and error is great right? NO? From being totally oblivious to any dating advices to having an upper hand, to trying out these new found knowledge, to testing it out, to keeping what works and what doesnt, and finally to explore NEW techniques again...and on...and on..and on...

Great you say? Yes..that's what most guys in the dating community thinks...and eventually behave.

Great..i digress.

That's what's gonna kill you in the long run. From building up an egoistic self, to making yourself feel miserable by always having the need to think of new tactics to get the girl.

As i always say...keep it short and simple. and POTENT.

My mentality..

Oblivious ---> Exposed to new technique ---> Test out new technique ---> Trial and error ---> sift out what works and what doesn't ---> Understanding why it works and why it doesn't --->
Freeflow time!

PERIOD.

The difference between both mentality?

The first one gets you stuck in the "What should i Say, Do, Behave NEXT?" to get the girl bubble of stupidity. And turns you into an analytical FREAKSHOW who doesnt know how to have real fun.

The latter enables you to expand your perspective, while understanding key concepts..in essence allows you to showcase your natural attractiveness, while not compensating on the attraction department.

Fair?

Is this the key to destroying weird freak shows ??

I dun know..

I just love myself.

=)

The Power Of Attraction.

Have you ever felt exhausted, burnt out from all these attraction stuff that you've read, learn, or even consciously act out?

You are not alone.It isn't new anymore. Every successfully transformed Singapore alpha male will tell you the same old theory.

Sometimes less is more.

Moving on is something, but understanding why you should and why it is the ultimate truth is another. If it isn't already clear to you, the reason people pick up new skills is directly proportionate to their motive which drives their purpose. Individual purpose takes time to discover. Nobody can tell you what you should be responsible in your life. It is the universal truth that we all have to tread this journey ourselves. Often times, it is the question that makes the cut, not the answer.

And the human ego is sly as it is, often times slipping in from the back of the mind without you consciously knowing. " The world is your mirror " - a common quote you hear all the time. Your comments and criticisms are simply a reflection of your perception of yourself.

That of which you resent, you lack.

The ultimate truth is often misunderstood, or even misrepresented.In this time and age when freedom of speech is widely practiced, we begin to doubt our own values, and beliefs. Oftentimes, unconsciously taking on values from an external source, in which the values came from another external source. It is a never ending cycle that serves to only make the unconscious more unconscious, and the conscious more conscious.

Well, just like how the rich gets richer and the poor gets poorer.

When will it stop?

The invisible force is constantly working its magic, all with the majority of our human population
being unaware. What invisible force you may ask? Go read "The secret", and you shall have a better understanding of what i'm saying. It's weird whenever you talk to someone about this "invisible force", and they give you that weirded out stare, given the fact that the "weirdo" is well aware of the presence of other invisible forces like x-rays and gamma rays. I don't know. It seems like the human ego is trying to resist allowing the truth to set in.

Running away serves as a temporary relieve of pain.

Matter of fact, most of us are constantly living our lives through force, instead of power.

Just like how you would conduct a textbook style pickup. If you come down to the bare minimum, you are simply acting through force. Pushing your values and wants onto another person. Yes, you may have some initial successes, but it is just temporary. Understand that a force will return an opposing force. A force moves something from here to there, and it's limited by definition. A force requires constant stimuli. And yes, you may not be able to handle the returning force..you never know. And yes, it is obviously coming from a point of artificial stimuli.

On the other hand, you would do so much better if you are coming from a point of power. By definition, power is still, stable and it requires no external stimuli. An example, gravity. Power affects the things around it, it generates energy in itself.

Why wouldn't we want to look at attraction in this perspective instead?

Wouldn it be much more beneficial to the degenerating human condition?

True and unbelievable at first, there really is a rotating vortice in every one of us. We are all human generators. And how do we kick start this generator? We need to learn how to be compassionate. We need to learn how to not judge, how to act from power and purpose, instead of lack and fear.

One can then truly grasps the meaning of "unreactiveness" when one is being exposed to this ultimate truth. As i always like to reiterate, we come to this world with nothing, and we shall leave with nothing. It simply is a myriad of experiences that we truly have, throughout our time on earth. And knowing this ultimate yet simply truth, shouldn't we all do all we can to enhance our life experiences? It is true that what is good for you will be good for me. Disregarding context. Eg: Vitamin C is good for you, and it will be for me. Laughter is good for you, and it will be for me. For all good that you return to the society, it affects the others, and in turn affects the others again.

When equipped with the true essence of power, one can feel unwavered. Needless to say passing congruence tests. And by basing all interactions into a feedback loop which ends up in you asking yourself if it is beneficial to your emotional wellbeing, and aligning it to your true purpose and priority in your life..you get to see the "bigger picture".

Girl : hey, that shirt looks weird on you!
You : Thanks, that's one of the worse compliments i've gotten. you are so cute, you dun really
give compliments eh? Let me buy you some chocolates! (You disregard her comments, cos you know it isn't congruent. And she is coming from a point of "force", to get to you return an opposing force (react). and you don't, instead you became real weirdly friendly..and it doesnt make sense. (you arent always able to handle the opposing force which comes your way).

The point isn't about the
exact words you use, but the idea and motive behind those words.

Think about it,

With love,
Gate