Rejections from a women during a approach or a date is what i call the misfire approach. Face it, no matter how attractive or
seductive you are, there will be a particular girl who hates you, and one who
loves you to bits.
There is really nothing you can do about it. No amount
of routine is able to rectify that.
However, if you are lovable in the
first place, people will eventually like you. You go out with the fire in your
eyes, execute your intentions with pure honesty and integrity. That's how you
experience congruency. And if you can't look at yourself right in the mirror
without flinching a bit, you ain't strong enough.
I'm telling you right
now to work on yourself. I'm telling you to practice the misfire approach,
rather than the usual planning, aiming of targets.
Leave the lines and
dynamics alone for now.
Some guy told me that doing the above is not
productive, and it doesn't guarantee results.
Bullshit. This guy who said
the above is, and will not be happy internally...for a long long
time.
This brings us back to why many guys decided to chart this journey
of learning how to communicate better with women.
They ain't get no
dates. And they ain't comfortable living alone.
Who sets the rule that if
you ain't have any girl, you are a loser? No one.
This skill set
addresses the issue that has been, and still is biting at everyone of our inner
self. We ain't comfortable spending time alone. Misunderstanding the need for a
partner as the answer for our happiness, i was guilty of it.
What are you
lacking? You answer it yourself. A relationship is a vehicle to bring out the
light in both human beings. To propel both people to higher grounds of
consciousness. Nothing more. If you are currently in a long term relationship,
ask yourself if you are growing. Growing intellectually, emotionally and
spiritually. Ask yourself if you constantly challenge your partner to grow. I
bet not huh?
The impossible is often untried. Before you say something is
impossible, try it. Try it until it works.
Don't limit yourself to
structures. Don't burn bridges. I've lost great friends to the human ego. I've
lost friends who suddenly realized they have evolved to be a super pick up
artist, and lost themselves in delusion. The moment you start viewing yourself
as a master, you short change your learning curve.
I never compete
against the competition. The only one i compete against is myself, because one
day i will beat the competition and then who will i compete
against?
There is really nothing more powerful than love in this world.
Nothing.
Forgive and have compassion, for that is the operant which
brings in the results.
Operants transcend both the observable and non
observable. We might picture them as a rainbow bridging the deterministic and
the nondeterministic realm.
In dating terms, whatever you feel she
feel.
The operant in this case is your body language and the energy you
are giving off. With operant as the vehicle to transcend thoughts into actions,
you basically will require a strong attractor pattern. In this case, your inner
self.
If you are starting of a conversation with a playful teasing,
hoping to generate some great responses, hoping she will tease you back..so you
can determine her level of interest in order to secure your next move....your
attractor pattern is WEAK.
You should rather be allowing your true self
to shine, not caring about any rejections or successes you will get throughout
the night. Gracefully gliding and mingling around the club and genuinely
enjoying yourself. Just how many people can do that?
Before you disagree,
think for a moment..are you really enjoying yourself when you are faking an
approach?
There you have your answer. You want her. And as a man, how
wimpy it is that you need a reason to express your interest in her? That being
said, to deliver such a power pact opening by blatantly showing interest..you
need some preparations.
You need to smell good
You need to look sharp
and well groomed
You need to show your sparking teeth and deliver an ass
whooping wide smile
You need to be talking to everyone and assume
rapport
You need to be able to hold eye contact (unwavering that is)
You
need to be GENUINELY HAPPY and having FUN
The above will take care of
many many things. It is the stuff that you should be thinking about when you
enter a club, and everywhere you deem fit. It is your attractor pattern. And
with these attractor patterns, it directly affects the kind of operants you use,
aka bodylanguage / speech / words. And this manifests itself into the observable
event. Whether or not she reciprocates solely depends on your internal view of
yourself.
Misfire approach? You bet. Who cares if she hates your guts?
Does it affect you? End of the day, if you were to die tomorrow, are you going
to be happy?
You know the answer my man.
Spend some time, think
about it. If the universe is so easily figured out, if dynamics are so easily
manipulated, we'll all be gods. Things are always changing. External events
intercorrelate. The only control we have is over our emotions and
thoughts.
That should be the only unwavering thingy you should care
about. Not logistics, not whether she gives you ten iois or not.
Should
you be able to be true to your intentions, things will unfold..things will take
care of themselves.
Afterall, that's the exciting part of life isn't it?
You never know what you get..
Stay true. Try it
